I'm often amazed at how many times I hear a woman (or man for that matter) comment saying that having a C Section is taking the easy way out!  

I literally want to scream at them and try to make them understand that major surgery is certainly not easy, although I appreciate pushing a 10cm head out of a noo noo is no walk in the park either!  I tried, believe me I tried but as the midwife said, it was like trying to get a square peg out of a round hole and even after attempting forceps and a vacuum my little man still didn't want to come which is why I then had to have an emergency C Section.

Second time round with low blood platelets again I was advised that a C Section would be best and it's frightening being taken into theatre with what feels like a million professionals standing around you and no one there to hold your hand.  Having to wake up feeling drowsy and then caring for a tiny human being is NOT easy and then when the drugs wear off it FRICKING hurts!  You're also told not to lift anything or do anything strenuous which is hilarious as things need to be done at home and I doubt many of us have a 1:1 carer on hand to do all these chores for us.  I had dreamt of how my babies delivery would be and watched Mums happily holding their bundles of joy and then skipping out of the maternity unit.  But that wasn't me.

So to all you Mums out there, however you have delivered your baby, well done!  Surely the most important thing is that they are happy and healthy?  Don't put us with scars down for not being able to do what you managed. 

Love Dorsetmums.xxx

If you are a lover of the feline kind then I have no doubt that Pause Cat Café in Bournemouth will interest you greatly.  I recently took a like-minded cat loving friend and both of our young children to see what it’s like to sit in a café surrounded by purring cats.  I won’t lie, it feels a little strange, but we all really enjoyed it.

Lots of people (including myself) will wonder how hygienic it can be with the wondering cats but I can assure you that this has been well thought out and when you go in you’ll see that there’s double glass doors and a coffee making area with a little turning door so the moggies can’t get in.

Before you're shown to your table you need to read a little about the café which includes information on it being a community venue with volunteers, some of whom may have learning difficulties and a huge passion for animals.

We had the best table which was next to a piano and we could see some cats curled up sleeping and others which were leaping across beams and playing all around us.  I’m very pleased that my daughter was on her best behaviour and not charging around the place.  In fact, the cats had a calming effect on both kids and they spent ages stroking them and playing with the basket of feathers and balls.

We decided to order lunch from the menu which has vegan and gluten free options and includes sandwiches, wraps, jacket potatoes, salads and sweet treats.  There’s also a kittens menu for the children with the choice of sandwich, apple and cucumber sticks and ice cream.  Whilst our food was being prepared we went off to explore the downstairs seating area which had more fluffy cats, some ready to play with us and others which were curled up enjoying their nap time.

Back at our table our food arrived and it looked delicious.  My friend had ordered a jacket potato and I had a thick vegetable soup which was packed full of veg and barley.  My fussy daughter even ate some with pleased me greatly.  I thought it was a little odd that our food was delivered in a large white tub with lids but as we were eating we suddenly heard a crash on the piano which made us all jump and laugh and then we saw an inquisitive puss was heading on over to see what we had.  Luckily the staff saw him before he got too close and he was kindly escorted away while we ate.

When you book a table at Pause Cat Café you will notice that there is a cover charge and this goes towards the care of the cats which includes providing trained and qualified cat care specialist staff on hand at all times, vaccinations, ample food, treats, litter, bedding, exercise equipment and toys plus a separate area for the cats to sleep at night.

The staff and volunteers are all very welcoming and eager to tell you all about the cats that walk around you.  We really enjoyed our stay there and will be looking to go again in the future with the rest of the family.

Please visit Pause Cat Café for more details including special events like Children’s Workshops, SEN Sessions and Cat Yoga!